oh sweetie, its gonna be ok. what you need to do is call him and tell him you need to talk to him in person, then when you are there with him where ever it is you two are just ask him, but dont be mean say something like " i have been noticing somethings that have made me wonder something about you....dont get mad at me, and i dont want to offend you but are you gay?" and if he is tell him that touching you in the way ther he does makes you uncomfertable. if he is ur best friend he will understand, and he will prolly respect you for telling him how you feel so that you two wond lose ur great friendship w/ eachother....trust me, not all my friend took to me being Bisexual so well. but every person is different.

hope it all works out for you ^_^

<3 Pixie

Hey, fella. =)

Let me be the first to say that what you're going through isn't that uncommon. A lot of us gays and lesbians tend to get feelings for those we are closest to and despite being in the closet, can't help but try to act that out to get a potential response. When you talk to him (face-to-face might be a little difficult but in the end maybe a better choice) you have to expect him to a.) get offended at the suggestion or b.) get mad, c.) laugh it off. Chances are if he is gay, and insecure about it, he'll react negatively to the suggestion at all. As your friend, though, he will eventually over time come to accept who he is; that's not your main concern, that's just a process every person of a different sexual or gender identity have to go through. As everyone else has said, just be open with him about it. And above all let him know you're still his best friend, and he is still yours.

That's all I have, really. Though if you need someone to talk to about it, feel free to PM me. I'm generally a very good listener and have had some experience from your friend's point of view.

Blessings - Pan

Hey,

Listen,Being gay or lesbian is a way of life and if you are not comfortable with what he is doing confront him and tell him how you feel.He's touching your body and you are uncomfortable,tell him you dont like it when he does that.Your body is yours and you should let anyone else have it.He probably dosent know how you feel which is why he keeps doing it.

Good luck
SmartyMarty

I'm going to agree with Kronos and so on.
Be honest with him, but do it in such a way that it's not bombarding, you know? Don't shove it in his face like it's a crime. He's obviously trying to tell in a very subtle yet physical way that there is something. Or he could just be a feminine (camp) bloke who's being unknowingly jokey with you.

But just make it clear that what he's doing is making you uncomfortable, you don't have to make yourself gay for him (if you're not gay, as easy as it is to act as a gay person, it's not natural), no one can force themselves to go with someone of the same sex if you have no physical attraction towards them.

I hope whatever you do goes well. I'm sure your friend will understand.

Good luck.

So is it just that we have a lot of homosexuals on this website, or is it cause of the topic title having gay in it? Then again though, more and more people I know are admitting to being gay now, so I guess it's just because it's being more widely accepted and portrayed lightly in media?

Anyways, from a straight person's view, though I am a bit feminine at times (;o), a couple of my friends came out of the closet not long ago. One of them constantly goes into complimenting my appearance, though never touching me inappropriately. At times it does get a bit uncomfortable, especially when your preferences don't go that way, but as a whole, I've come to look at it as a normal occurrence. It hasn't been the first time and it probably won't be the last time that a person with homosexual preference comes onto me. I think the best way to handle it, is if your friend hasn't come out of the closet yet, then definitely don't try to call him gay or "help" him realize what he is. That is something he needs to do on his own. With the whole touching thing, I'd resort to acting a bit more reserved when he does that. I have a female friend who always used to hug me and try to kiss me on the lips as normal hellos and goodbyes. The way I handled it is I would just slightly move out of the way when she came in for the kiss or made the hug really really short and small. Mainly because I'm not very comfortable with public display of affection, or any type of serious affection when you aren't "with" someone. But the end result is that we are still friends, and she has gotten the hint that stuff like that makes me uncomfortable. If this friend of yours is really your best friend, gay or not, he will realize it makes you feel the same way.

And I know this is a way late response, but if the situation is still a problem, then I hope this helps in at least some way.

papolatte wrote:So is it just that we have a lot of homosexuals on this website, or is it cause of the topic title having gay in it?

First option. We're everywhere.

WOOT GO PANDAVA!!! X3

castersage wrote:WOOT GO PANDAVA!!! X3

Haha. QUICK, TO THE SECRET MEETING HOUSE! Just kidding. We don't have one of those...

Lol wouldn't that be fun though! Their is a gay youth meeting thats near my house...MY MOM TOOK ME ONCE! it was epic...

I know you guys are everywhere! I found one of you underneath my covers last night!

:B

May I ask why you people are reviving this topic. It died about a month ago and I have two hypothesis about its author.

A. He is an attentioned starved teen who believes that he can get attention by talking about his sexual preferances on the internet.

B. He is actually a homosexual who believes that he can actually get good advice on the internet.

Oh and this one just dawned on me...

C. He's a troll who believes its very humorous to get the community in an uproar because he know's some noob is going to come in here and totally flame out gays and start the longest rant thread in the history of Roleplay Gateway.

@Drako: If your actually a down to heart gay my apologies, I have met to many trolls in my lifetime.

or D: maybe he really does need help ^_^ ever think about that? its hard being gay ( i am using the broadyl, and in gay, les and bi)

Hello everyone. I know this died in errrr March, but I saw Drakona's post and was actually really offended by it. So I just wanted to let everyone know I am not some attention seeking teen or some gay trying to come out of the closet. I am just someone trying to look for a little help in a situation I have never been in before. I thought there were alot of good people on here who might know something so I thought I would ask.

Just a little update on the whole situation, my friend has cooled things down after I insisted I felt uncomfortable with touching and such, much to his amusment. I never really asked if he was gay and he never said anything either, so maybe he was just seriously fooling around and I took it the wrong way who knows. Anywho its all pretty good now. Thanks for all the help everyone!