I think I was one of the ones that tried to help you earlier. Let's try again.
Battles are all about timing and positioning. No matter how good your strategy is, if you can't time your strikes and blocks correctly, you're going to go down. Once you have the basic moves down and learn a few things about your opponent's capabilities, then you can move on to developing tactics and strategies.
I highly recommend the study of a historical or modern martial art to assist in your understanding of core concepts. For example, all non-thrusting attacks will come from and will target one of eight directions on the human body. This ties in with the "get up out of your chair and do the moves" that I recommended.
http://thearma.org is a wonderful starting point into research of historical European martial arts, but comprehension will not come easily. From this comprehension, however, will flow a newfound understanding of how various moves will translate into a written form, so it's well worth the effort.
There are two sorts of fighting. One seeks to advance a plot through means of combat. Here, you are encouraged to collaborate with your opponent on who's doing what and when, and have a grand old "who would win" discussion. After this is done, you can write out the entirety of the fight in a single post. This is the sort I recommend you stick to. The other is combat for its own sake, which is more like a game of chess or Magic The Gathering, as each combatant seeks to implement his strategy and deny his opponent the same in order to claim victory. This sort of fighting is probably what your boyfriend is more a fan of.
Finally, you can read, study and listen all you want, but unless you go out and practice you won't gain anything. Use active verbs, describe the whooshing of your sword through the air, and don't let performance anxiety get in the way of writing a good scene.