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Tips: 0.00 INK Postby dealing with it on Thu Apr 11, 2013 9:04 pm

How do you maintain healthy friendships? What is an unhealthy one?

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Re: Friendship

Tips: 0.00 INK Postby matchawhore on Thu Apr 11, 2013 9:34 pm

To have a healthy friendship, you need :
1) trust in each other
2) honesty
3) commitment
4) at least a few similar interests
5) respect for each others' feelings
6) forgiveness for differences
7) communication and be a good listener
8) make time for each other
9) flexible sense of humour
10) respect boundaries

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Re: Friendship

Tips: 0.00 INK Postby Rossesthorn99 on Sat Apr 13, 2013 3:38 pm

Healthy friendship:
1)communication
2)trust
3)respect
4)care
5)always have time for each other
6)respect
7)support each other

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Re: Friendship

Tips: 0.00 INK Postby matchawhore on Sun Apr 14, 2013 7:48 pm

Unhealthy friendships...

Basically the opposite of all the above. Distrust, backstabbing, talking about them behind their backs, hurting each other, taking jokes too seriously and never getting over it, lack of forgiveness over stupid things, fighting but never getting over it or talking it out, never communicating clearly, making each other feel stupid, avoid them, never make time for them (unless it's beyond your control, life does that to you), always take but never give, lack of any generosity, etc.

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Re: Friendship

Tips: 0.00 INK Postby dealing with it on Mon Apr 15, 2013 4:47 pm

Is an unhealthy friendship the same as having an enemy?

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Re: Friendship

Tips: 0.00 INK Postby spaceracist on Mon Apr 15, 2013 4:50 pm

I feel like all my relationships start out healthy and good and fun but the more comfortable I become with someone the more I show my true self, which ends up being very UNHEALTHY. I always begin to take them for granted by accident and I have to focus so hard on showing them the right emotions. I start letting out my personal frustrations on the people I am closest to. The more I trust someone or the more they trust me, the more likely it is that they will let me down or I will let them down.
Now what?

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Re: Friendship

Tips: 0.00 INK Postby Aniihya on Wed Apr 17, 2013 2:43 pm

I do not have many friends and those I consider friends are very good friends since I can interact with them without having to fear having something forced upon me or constantly being asked of a favor. I sort of don't have many friends, because some people are afraid of me or fear that I am a sociopath. Being the quiet guy with a lot of patience, reading Marquis de Sade and minding his own business isn't bad is it?
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Re: Friendship

Tips: 0.00 INK Postby Shi-chan on Wed Apr 17, 2013 2:59 pm

An unhealthy relationship is one that drains you of emotional energy. I remember reading a book a while back, and stumbling onto the expression "emotional vampire", which, in short, is a person who lets out so much negativity that it drains those around them of positive feelings. I was friends with one such "vampire" some years ago, and found that the relationship was wholly bad for everyone involved. He did not become happier, regardless of my attempts to show him the brighter side of things, and I gave up and just allowed him to swamp around in his own misery after a year or so.

I walked away for good when I realised that this person had no intention of changing their attitude, and instead had attempted to cut me off from other friends by spreading lies and other such things.

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Re: Friendship

Tips: 0.00 INK Postby spaceracist on Wed Apr 17, 2013 5:17 pm

Aniihya wrote:Being the quiet guy with a lot of patience, reading Marquis de Sade and minding his own business isn't bad is it?


Not at all! But this is your relationship with yourself, not others.
I consider those GOOD things hahaha.

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Re: Friendship

Tips: 0.00 INK Postby starkandskinny on Sat Apr 20, 2013 3:12 am

I have to disagree with some of the comments above, since, at least from my past experience - too much of a good thing can also lead to having an unhealthy relationship with a person. 'Always having time for each other' could easily be misinterpreted as must have time for each other at all times, 'care' could result in constantly needing to know what the other person is doing, etc. etc.
I have many acquaintances, but not a lot of people who I consider actual friends - and those who are good friends share all of the above-mentioned traits, but also have a good sense of giving a person some space when they need it, and minding their own business when they should.
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Tips: 0.00 INK Postby Psychopizzino on Mon Apr 22, 2013 12:27 am

It is very difficult to maintain a healthy friendship and relationship. Everyone thinks oh he/she needs respect, trust, love, devotion, etc. To me if someone has to have all of these qualities in a friendship then you are expecting way to much out of someone. People lie and make mistakes from time to time expecting someone to have all of these qualities is thinking way to hard. I enjoy the company of my friends because they can be real with me and if they have to confess a little white lie about something to make me feel better for a little while then we can laugh about it later. Thats just my opinion on friendship.
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Re: Friendship

Tips: 0.00 INK Postby spayce on Thu May 02, 2013 10:21 pm

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Tips: 0.00 INK Postby Lone Dreamer on Tue May 14, 2013 9:16 pm

Interesting topic especially since I am terrible with friendships or any sort of relationship. Oh lonesome forever.

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Re: Friendship

Tips: 0.00 INK Postby almostinsane on Wed Jun 05, 2013 6:46 pm

I think that trust and communication is the key foundation to any relationship. Without both, then it all topples down.

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