cucumbersome wrote:Finding ways to prevent abuse itself is always better than outlawing things that are often but not always abuse. But without those ways, and the necessity to do something because of the badness of the abuse... weāre stuck between a rock and a hard place. The last thing Iāll say about legal prostitution (which shouldnāt become the main topic) is that it seems to be easier to get protected against someone who is forcing you to commit a crime than it is to get protected against someone who is forcing you to do something that isnāt a crime. Itās not a matter of them feeling they have no other job opportunities.
I don't really think the discussion about legal prostitution is actually off topic here... we're not talking about legal prostitution as a whole, but only as it pertains the to the ways in which government regulates sexuality. I'll say I have a difference of opinion on who would have an easier time getting help... after all when you are already doing something illegal, forced or not, the idea of going to the authorities is daunting, especially if you live in a society where prostitutes are looked at as nothing more than whores with no social value.
I know it must seem like I'm 'for' polygamy. In fact, I am not, it is not a lifestyle I think I'd enjoy very much. Though I am very happy to be married, thrilled to be with my wife, two of them would seriously be too much. God knows two of me would drive her insane.... well, twice as insane as I do anyway. I would never recommend for people to try it, because it's just too complex and rife with potential for drama. I would counsel someone considering to really think about what they were getting into. All that said, I still don't think that a small handful of people that don't even understand the situation has any right to make any choices for them.
Beyond all that, I truly do believe that bringing things into the open is the best way of preventing abuse.
cucumbersome wrote:I live in a small country which I believe is slightly too big for healthy democracy. What size would a ālocal communityā be? Rules about sexuality being set by a community the size of a village seem rather creepy to me. Perhaps there also is a minimum community size to have a properly functioning democracy.
That's a good point about community size, though I'd like to point out that smaller village sized communities already do make up their own rules about sexuality. Incest has never been legal in the US, but that doesn't stop it from happening when the only girls you know just happen to be your first cousins. I'm not saying that makes incest okay, I'm just saying that your smaller communities tend to really not care what the rest of the world think, they live the way they live. And yes, it is most often very creepy.